Today I was informed by my stepson Xavior, that Mother's Day does not apply to me because I'm only his step mom not his real mom. Only... his ... step mom?!?! Hmmm... Who takes him to the doctor twice a month? Who drives him to therapy and discusses current issues with his therapist? Who brings home "just because I love you" surprises? Who deals with his teachers every day? Who teaches him the importance of hard work and pays his allowance? Who takes the time to make sure his day went well at school and listens when it wasn't good? .... yeah, that would be me. ME! Not his mother. No, apparently all she had to do earn the right to Mother's Day was push him out of her vagina. (I'd also like to point out that this same mother opted out of spending time with her son on mother's day that's why he is with his me for the holiday.) Normally I would have let this comment go like I usually do, but this particular weekend... Mother's Day weekend, my weekend I decided to respond with just how very untrue that was.
I wanted to explain that not only did I speak to his real mom and try to explain how important it is she not bail on him this weekend, and then after she once again did cancel (out of the last six schedules visits he was suppose to see her, he only went once) I tried to arrange for him to stay with his Auntie. After Heather said yes, and Hannah agreed to drive him both ways... his mom veto'd it saying she couldn't afford to see him. Then I offered to send him with money so he wouldn't be a financial burden. But even after all that he still couldn't go because she needed to get her stuff and move into an apartment this weekend (which has been the same excuse for all 5 missed visits... this apartment must be really far away). I knew how sad not seeing his mom for Mother's Day would make him so I called his friends' moms to see who could stay the night. Mark? No. Drew? No. Jake? Maybe. So I had to beg Jacob's mom to unground him (bad grades... silly Jake) so he could stay the night. After she agreed, I stopped on my way home from my Ellensburg drive and rented 2 redbox movies for them to watch with treats to make it a fun night... on mother's day weekend... the weekend that is suppose to be all about giving me a break, the one day every 365 days where I get to come first. I went out of my way to make him feel better about his mom not being there for him, and mother's day doesn't count for me?!!
Instead of pointing it all out and calling him an ungrateful, self-centered bastard like I thought in my head (I was really cranky, lol) ... I just made a frowny face and told him in a saddened voice that it means even more for step moms like me because we have to work twice as hard and you still don't even love us half as much, because no matter what I do or how much I love you, I'll never be your real mom.
.... Happy Mother's Day to me.
It's ok though, because I am going to demand a "do over"...I have to drive to Ellensburg, I won't get to sleep in, Jabali isn't home so there will be no pampering involved, I will have to cook and clean and watch kids so I decided that I am giving myself a rain check for this mother's day. :) haha
2 comments:
YES! I'd say you've earned a couple of pampering rain checks!
One day he'll realize all that you've done for him....
It's too hard for him at this point in his life to admit that he has a crummy 'real' mom and accept you as the awesomeness that you are.
Isn't he a lucky kid to have such a loving 'not real' step mom? I think so!
I think one of his homework assignments should be a list of things he has to be thankful for. Then make him read your blog and write a summary.. Lol you are an amazing mother and step-mother and I know one day even if he never says it he will realize how lucky he is to have you.
Love you
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